It’s not inspiration. It’s obsession.You idolize someone’s routine hoping it’ll fix your own chaos.But their system isn’t built for your life.

What Is a Productivity Crush?

When your habits feel shaky, copying someone else feels safe.It looks like discipline.But really, it’s disguised insecurity.

Why We Fall For It

Instagram routines, aesthetic planners, “day in the life” vlogs - they trigger guilt and comparison.You chase their structure instead of designing your own.

The Social Media Trap

You jump from Notion to notebooks.You follow routines but never feel grounded.You feel bad for not doing their steps, not missing your goals.

Signs You’re Caught in It

Audit who you're idolizing and unfollow triggers.Track what actually works for your energy.Commit to your system for 14 days then adjust, don’t abandon.

How To Break the Cycle

You’re not a system tourist. You’re a system architect. Curiosity beats comparison. The best routine isn’t perfect. It’s the one you’ll actually stick with.

Build Your System, Not Theirs

"Instead of idolizing productivity, personalize it."

You don’t need someone else’s 5 AM routine or color-coded planner. You need a system that fits your real life not their highlight reel.

You wake up and scroll through someone’s perfect morning routine. Suddenly, your day feels... off.In this episode, we unpack why you keep chasing other people’s productivity habits and how it sabotages your own systems.From silent comparisons to overhauling your workflow every week, we expose the hidden trap of productivity worship and teach you how to build a routine that’s actually aligned with your life.

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The Toxic Productivity Crush: When You Idolize Other People's Routines

“Your voice is an instrument—learn to play it intentionally.”By simply becoming aware that how you speak (tone, pace, pause, pitch) is more influential than what you say, your communication begins to shift. People respond to presence, rhythm, and feeling—this awareness alone changes how you’re heard.

Goal: Unlock awareness of your voice as your most powerful tool.Learn to identify volume, pitch, tone, and pace in your everyday speech.Exercise: Record yourself reading a short paragraph three ways: flat, expressive, intentional.Reflection: How does each version make you feel? How would it make others feel?

Voice Awareness — The Instrument Within

Goal: Move from reactive speech to purposeful communication.Practice setting a clear communication intention before you speak.Ask: “What experience do I want the listener to have?”Drill: Speak on a random topic with the goal of evoking curiosity, then trust, then inspiration.

Speaking with Intent — Not Habit

Goal: Harness timing and silence to command attention.Learn to pause before key points.Use 2-second silences to reset the listener’s mind.Exercise: Say something powerful and pause. Let it land. Notice the tension and release.

The Power of Pause & Silence

Goal: Learn how dynamic delivery keeps people engaged.Practice using contrast in voice: loud/soft, fast/slow, bright/serious.Integrate body language shifts with voice changes for deeper impact.Challenge: Deliver a 60-second story using 3 clear vocal contrasts.

Contrast Is Charisma

Goal: Speak like a performer, show up like a leader.	•	Mirror work: Practice eye contact, open posture, and facial expression.	•	Daily Drill: Deliver a greeting or introduction as if on a stage.	•	Identify a “power pose” you can adopt before big conversations.

Presence = Performance

Goal: Build deep communication confidence through reflection and refinement.Replace “I hope they like me” with “I hope I serve them well.”Rehearse with feedback: film yourself, review posture, tone, and clarity.Create a weekly journal with these prompts:What did I say well this week?Where did I disconnect from my voice?What one tweak will I apply next time?

Rewire Confidence Through Repetition

Vinh explains that people often unknowingly push others away with a monotone, dominating, or overly rehearsed speaking style. The real issue isn’t content—it’s how you make others feel when you speak.

Core Concept: Communication = Influence + Perception

Talking without breaksNot allowing others room to speakSpeaking in one tone or energyThis isn’t dominance—it’s insecurity disguised as confidence.

Key Mistake: “Monopolizing the Conversation”

He introduces the idea of the “vocal toolbox”:Pace: Slow down to emphasize meaning.Tone: Match emotional nuance.Volume: Quietness can be more powerful than loudness.Silence: A strategic pause builds respect.

Vocal Mastery: More Than Speaking Clearly

Many think confidence is being loud or assertive. Vinh reframes this:“Confidence is grace under pressure—it’s when you can pause, invite others in, and speak like you’re worth being heard without proving it.”

The Illusion of Confidence

Drawing from his magician background, Vinh compares good communication to stage presence:You don’t just speak—you perform.Movement, breath, and eye contact matter just as much as words.

Performance as Presence

He emphasizes that the quality of your speaking reflects:Your self-awarenessYour beliefs about your own worthYour ability to manage emotion while engaging others

Mindset Training = Speaking Upgrade

<ol><li>Record yourself speaking and analyze your energy shifts.</li></ol>	2.	Practice one-minute talks using contrast (fast/slow, soft/loud).	3.	Read aloud intentionally, playing with voice control.	4.	Meditate before conversations to increase emotional clarity and reduce nervous filler words.

✨ Practical Shifts

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Speaking with confidence isn’t a gift, it’s a skill - Vinh Giang reveals the blueprint to mastering the art of communicationVinh Giang is an award-winning entrepreneur, part-magician, and full time communication coach. He runs masterclasses and has helped thousands of people improve their communication and vocal skills.In this conversation, Vinh and Steven discuss topics such as, the top speaking mistake that makes people ignore you, small mistakes that make you unlikeable, how to effortlessly speak with power and confidence, and the number one word to avoid to be taken seriously.00:00 Intro02:15 Why Do You Do What You Do?04:12 How Much Will This Information Change Your Life?06:28 The Importance of Communication in Your Life and Career09:17 How Easy Is It to Make a Radical Change in Your Communication Skills?10:57 What's the Biggest Change People Experience?11:56 How Cracking Your Communication Will Change Your Life12:59 Why Should People Listen to You?18:47 Three Ways to Change How You're Perceived by Others20:28 What Is Vocal Image and How Does It Help Us?23:00 How Melody Evokes Emotions27:31 How to Know If You're Overdoing It30:55 The Importance of Pauses in Your Speech35:03 What Volume of Voice Signals Confidence?36:46 Create Emotion With Your Voice37:25 Gesticulating With Your Face41:31 The Storytelling Formula43:56 VAKS: Relive a Story, Don't Report It!47:22 Run These Techniques in the Real World50:30 Is There a Voice Tone That Makes People Dislike You?52:59 Practical Steps to Know If You're Good at Speaking57:34 Remove the Clutter Words From Your Speaking1:02:37 Ads1:03:33 What to Do Before You Go on Stage1:05:20 Warm Up Your Mouth and Tongue1:06:20 The Power of Body Language1:13:34 If You Want to Be Influential, You Need to Do This1:14:32 How to Interact Online1:19:45 Our Identity Stops Us From Growing1:21:37 Accents and How to Correct Them1:25:06 There Are No Limits to What You Can Do1:29:21 How to Deal With Bullies1:33:27 How to Start a Powerful Conversation With Someone1:37:53 Ads1:39:57 Small Talk1:42:18 What to Do If People Interrupt You at Work?1:44:58 Why You Should Mimic People's Body Language1:46:20 What Is F-O-R-D? Holding Conversations for Longer1:52:15 Are There Real Introverts and Extroverts?1:53:13 Social Anxiety1:55:19 Contextual Confidence2:01:39 I Do It All for My Son2:04:57 My Parents Gave Up Their Money to Become Monks2:11:37 The Endless Pursuit of More2:20:23 What Is One Thing You Know Is True Even If You Can't Prove It?Follow Vinh:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/gTz0zXL4xRb YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/gTL4XuN4xRb Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/owpA9uP4xRb Vinh’s Free Communication Resources -  https://gifts.vinhgiang.com/doac Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mpFollow me:https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKbSponsors:Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlettPerfectTed - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% offWHOOP - https://JOIN.WHOOP.COM/CEO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A few years ago I was a broke, university dropout, living in a studio-flat in a rough area. At 18 I started a company which would eventually become "Social Chain" - an industry leading marketing company. At 26 the company was generating $600m a year in revenue. At 27 I resigned as CEO, and launched 'The Diary Of A CEO' podcast with the simple mission of un-filtering success and giving you the knowledge you need to create the life you want. Thank you for listening. My New Book: https://smarturl.it/D IG: https://www.instagram.com/steven LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevenbartlett-123

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The Public Speaking Expert: This Speaking Mistake Makes People Ignore You! These Small Mistakes Make You Unlikeable!

You clean your desktop. Check emails. Reorganize folders.It looks like work.But it’s just focus theater comfortable, safe, and directionless.

Productive Procrastination Feels Like Progress

Hard tasks bring discomfort: ambiguity, risk, vulnerability.So your brain defaults to shallow wins.Quick clicks beat slow breakthroughs unless you catch it.

Your Brain Craves Closure, Not Challenge

It’s not character. It’s chemistry.You chase tasks that feel doable.Not the ones that matter.

Productivity Seduction Is About Control

● Name the task you’re avoiding● Identify the discomfort● Anchor with a 2-minute action● Prioritize emotional weight over ease● Rewire the reward sequence

A 5-Step Fix to Break the Loop

Inbox zero won’t build your dream.Your most valuable work won’t feel urgent but it creates leverage.Choose that over the illusion of momentum.

Don’t Let Easy Work Steal Your Day

Ask yourself:Is this task making me better or jst busy?Then move toward resistance, not relief.

One Question to Keep You Grounded

"The most valuable tasks rarely feel urgent. But they change everything when done consistently"

You’re not lazy. You’re just busy avoiding the real work. The brain craves quick wins even if they don’t move you forward.

Why do we keep skipping the important stuff to reply to emails, organize our desktop, or tweak the font one more time? It’s not laziness , it’s seduction. This episode unpacks why our brains are wired to chase the wrong tasks and how to reverse-engineer that craving into real momentum. You’ll learn to turn distraction into drive using deep psychological triggers from unfinished business to dopamine loops. If you’ve ever felt productive but not fulfilled, this is your wake-up call!

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